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...been long way coming...

I'll try to be as honest as possible... Hey, no judgements, we weren't born saints. Thank God, God Himself is aware of our dirty pasts and He remembers them no more, GLORY! And of course, even we aren't trapped in our past. Instead, we learn from it and teach it to others. Now to the body of the writeup. Have we all noticed how even the media insult the female fold? Or is it just me? Few nights ago, I was up and then my mind went in that direction; movies are usually filmed with the female's naked body in full view and just the back view of the men. Too many movies out there I can't start giving titles. There was this Nigerian Fuji artist I've never liked since I was a kid. Why? He makes women dance naked in his music. Maybe he's changed, God be praised. Well, you might think/say ''no one forced them into the scene'', ''they're just doing their job and are being paid for it'' and that ''they aren't com...

Political Apathy Justified!!!

No mistakes, I meant to use that title. It is!!! I'm sure you all are asking questions... Isn't she all about making changes? Then how would she if she isn't interested in the political affairs of her state? Isn't she politically literate? Oh! Or you're drawing conclusions: 'Yet another ''too much talks and never do''' 'She's one of the reasons the world is still the way it is, pouring out anger on the internet and in gatherings without interest in making efforts to change the condition of things.' Well, there was a time I was keen on entering into politics just to turn the tables and play fair. Later, I just wanted to read law and fight injustice. Then again, I changed my mind. I just wanted to have adequate knowledge of law so I can fight peoples' course the right way, women and children especially (we're mostly the voiceless or unheard and with lots at stake). So, as it seems, I've always been about leg...

Nigeria; OUR Nigeria!!!

This can't be more impromptu... So I was going through my WhatsApp stories and I found this. I don't know how true it is (I  mean the caption: people paying to use this 'bridge'?) Really? Well, that isn't even the issue. But this individual tagged it 'laughable.' Laughable? More like 'cryable', 'weepable' and whatever synonym that can pass. Anyway, I believe it came as too much shock such that this person was speechless. And of course, we mostly laugh at situations we don't have words for. This is heart wrenching. And to think I ran into it the same day my beloved country is celebrating 59 years of independence from the colonial overlords. It's high time we realized this country isn't moving nowhere, no milestone is gonna be achieved if we don't work, first on our mentalities as individuals then together as a united body, only then can feats be achieved. If only these people will together cry to their government. Or ma...

That particular call on that particular day...

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Ok, I'm starting this page with laughs, but then, the message still stand. All thanks to Facebook for bringing back good memories (a 2017 memory 😎😊). Initially, I was gonna edit the post but then I changed my mind. I was boiling on this particular day baby and I wanna share the memory as it was, RAW!!! Enjoy! 🤗🤗 Of course, comments and feedbacks would be highly welcome and appreciated ☺☺ Here we goooooo... MEN!!! Aren't they supposed to be human? And humane? Why would you see or hear a female and all you could do is disrespect her? Thinking alone of satisfying your sexual desires? Hello! She isn't inferior to you! Even at creation, she was created to be a "help meet" to Adam, her partner, HUSBAND!!! Not every man's... Personal decision tho, if she wants to be public service... The Bible says "wives submit to your husbands", so we've got no business bowing to any irresponsible person with a thing dangling in betw...

Virginity is really no biggie afterall; it isn't the icing, let alone the cake 💁💁

...since I already took permission to 'just write' and I believe I've been granted the permit (read my apologies - previous post, for better understanding), LET'S DIG! YAY!!!💃💃💃💃 As I was saying, virginity or abstinence is really no biggie you know? Hold up, sip water, I'll break it down, let's journey... (Errm, so I realize some of my audience aren't just Nigerians, let alone Yorubas, but please try and follow, I'll make sure not to lose you 💖💖 I'll be making a few references to Yorubas. Some might even be similar to what you have around you...) ...so, I know some Yoruba gods and goddesses demand their worship done (or sacrifices carried) by just virgins just because these gods love purity. So, to start with, I'll say virginity is more about consecration. Did you know occultists demand 'virginity' in order to keep their powers safe and intact; potent. This time, more of abstinence or they are said to have committed a sacrile...

Apologies 😔😔

Ok. So I really don't know how to go about this, I'll just try and do me as usual... This will be a lot of mumble jumble. (Me to you, read paragraphs 2,3 and 6 and save yourself some stress... 😎) So, I've been off for how long now 😔😔 And not just that, even when I wasn't so away, I was erratic. My apologies. Truth? Sometimes, I feel I'm not reaching as much audience as I envisaged. Some previous articles get more reads than the most recent, it's like the audience traffic is falling instead of rising. But then, I realized, it really isn't about quantity but quality. If the one person who checks this page is transformed, looks forward to more and spreads the gospel, then the impact is made... To the few friends and anonyms always asking for more, for the inspiration, I'm really grateful and so sorry for letting you down. But then, I still want more traffic guys, let's leave the tens and hundreds... Yeah, I have a part to play, 'gotta be mo...

We are our undoing...

...exams are on, we're going really brief, no long stories... So I was in this public transport this evening, on my way from school, and there were these guys witted right behind me, talking about girls and dating and all. All of a sudden, one of them went ''girls don't have sense, all you need is have money.'' I was just there in my seat, listening, you know, making sure I don't break a jaw. Then he mentioned a few instances to his friend who was trying to calm him down with the ''guy, na inside public transport you dey'' (guy, you're in a public transport). I couldn't but chill out after those instances that made him arrive at that conclusion. Then, say five minutes after this, our bus drove past a guy and a girl making out by the roadside in broad day. (I know some will crucify me, but hello, you aren't joint in holy matrimony 💁 If that was settled, dhurr, act as you wish man). As expected, this same guy again talked shop...

...coat of many colours...

Yeah, I know I did put myself out the last time, being particular about dates I upload 🙁🙁 Now ion have nothing to say but this friend of mine bumped into my DM yesterday 😏 So, we're here to keep our words 💃💃 But really, I'm blank, you know your girl wouldn't cook up something abstract plus this next two weeks are crazy, I'm not done wrapping my heads around it just yet. Anyways, let's talk... I'll just again drop my 'two cents' as regards rape... Whoever is raped, male or female (my last post justified it on the male's side yeah?) may never heal while some may, after what to us may seem as eternity, but then, the wait is worth it, let them heal. It isn't easy to open up, but when they do, even when you know deep down it is all lies, let them still have this sense of acceptance, what if it is the truth? Moreover, both the liar and the rightful victim must have summoned some courage to accept rape abuse and more courage to speak up... Summa...

Let's talk RAPE

Well, this is really really impromptu (like every other writeup on this page, lol). Let me start by saying HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to not just those who's given birth but also the prospective fathers out there. And of course, being a father isn't just about 'getting it in, pulling it out, and WOALLA, it's a boy/girl' 🙄🙄 It's way more than that... So, this page is gonna be about me as a Masculinist (let's accept it as a valid word for the purpose of this blog, thank you 😘😘). The inspiration? Common, it's because today is Father's day. Imagine me not putting anything up for women's or mother's day... Well, iono if it counts as anything tho. A few seconds more for paparazzi please 😉... This page is dedicated to my popman. Damn, he was and still is a father even after 7 years and 9 months of transition (I miss you man, you're  the realest, the best 💕💕). So yes, there are 'MEN' out there. And to the awesome guy friend...

'Keeping quiet' is what good women do 🙄🙄

Happy Id-El-Fitr people! We're all celebrating except you're not loving the holidays that come with this day 💁💁 So I want to drop this early before commencing my 'Eid rice hunt' 😌😌 No eye on me 😏 Well, I'm trying to be consistent here, posting on the 4th of every month and twice a month. I hope to be more frequent with time... Ok, to the gist of the day. I was on this group chat yesterday and it was fun until one cute girl cracked a joke which everyone also treated as a joke. So, it means it was a good joke right? Exactly! But then the subject of the joke thought otherwise so he came really hard on this babe then we all went mellow. Actually, if you'll ask me, I'd say it was a harmless joke but with the way the guy flaired up, you'll think they've been having it in for one another. To the main... This babe despite all these talks didn't say anything too serious to defend herself, she kept going 'it was a harmless joke', 'wer...

Masculinity...Femininity...

I'm so angryyyyyyy, arrrgh😠😠😠😡😡😡😡😠😠😠 Is that showing much anger yet? Ok, maybe not, but I sure am angry. No rush, I'm going into details already, that's why I'm  here anyway... So, I was on  my way to school today and I was on board with this guy on micro shorts, I mean, the thing will pass for panties. His tighs were all over my face 🙄  Actually, the reason I'm this vexed is because my school is one that wouldn't tolerate the slightest bit of indecent dressing, but this guy can pass? Sure, he's a guy! Another thing is, it's the fasting season for Muslims and... Hey, I don't mean to discriminate, trust me, my best family are Muslim families, but then, there's always this extra to the fasting season in my side of Nigeria (I'm not telling you where exactly 😛😛)- the littlest thing would render the fast invalid... That means, mouths will be all over the this guy if he was a she, but instead, the driver was even racking jokes wi...

Let's let the HE express...

Seems this is going to be one of my few days of exceptions. We're on the HE side, yay!!! 💃💃💃💃 So I was in this seminar few weeks back, a youth seminar, and then we got to the health section and they decided to give adolescents sex education. Luckily, a few parents were in attendance. To the main gist, both speakers kept repeating 'boys and girls, feel free to communicate all changes to your mothers, both the physical and emotional changes.' Did I mention that the anchor of the program was a HE. On getting a hold of the microphone after the lectures, the first thing he did was attacking the speakers. He went 'PLEASE LET THESE CHILDREN BE CLOSE TO US FATHERS TOO, ATLEAST THE BOYS, NOT JUST THE MOTHERS, YOU KNOW WE WOULD BE ABLE TO RELATE BETTER TO THE CHANGES THEY EXPERIENCE, A GUY TO GUY THING' LOL! I couldn't hold back the laugh. He went on, '...you know we men grew up keeping to ourselves, so they may find it difficult talking to their mothers' ...

The Ideal Personality Trait, Introverts/Extroverts?

You know I should've dropped this the same day as the last one, pff! I've got a lot of working to do as regards this procrastination... Thanks for bearing with me still 😊 Ok! To why I'm here. This' gonna be as fast as possible, low battery 😞😞 It's a lil diversion from gender activism. Say personality activism? Does that even make sense? ☺ You know, the introvert-extrovert thing. Please read on... It's funny how being an extrovert is the normality while the 'one in a hundred' introvert is the outcast. Imagine some even tagging it AUTISM! (I'm a living testimony, pff!) Like for real? Autism? All because I'm no fan of lousy and gregariousness? So I've got a neurological disorder? Oh boy! I was reading an introvert related work, imagine this guy asking the author to keep him anonymous, saying because she has come to terms with her being an introvert doesn't mean everyone has. I was awed! I never thought anyone could be battling with...

Historical nature of 'genderedness'...

"As a girl, you shouldn't..." "As a lady, you shouldn't..." "As a woman, you shouldn't..." "As a female, you shouldn't...' SHOULDN'T DO WHAT? I'm lost! Not to mention the fact that I am sick and tired of this bigotry. How about we try "AS HUMANS...?" It's high time the world broke away from gender inequality. Well, there really isn't anyone in particular to blame for the patriarchal nature of the society. Better still, that one person(s) is/are long dead, so... But really, we have to leave where they left us and move on, after all, change is constant! Enough of defining 'feminity' as: weaker vessel; delicate body; being cute; responsibility to cook, clean, dress and raise children; exemption from sweating/stress being polite non-aggression passiveness; ...anything other than this is then tagged 'not ladylike', PFF! Like we all aren't originally supposed to be all these...

Is 'KITCHEN' the female child's surname?

I've really been a poor blogger, my apologies 😞 I think I should get an employer to post on my behalf, but I'm just a student, Ion have cash to pay. Anyway, I'm considering trading Forex, but I'm not too convinced about it, plus, I'm a novice. I hope to be more frequent here, I really apologize for my inconsistency... So, to the main gist. Today's post is a conversation with a friend. We were really dragging the 'is the kitchen supposed to be left to the female child only?' I was able to drive home my point, and we ended it on a light note, but trust me, I wanted to yell at him at a point. Thank God I didn't succumb to the urge to send a voice note, I would have resulted to summary, but now, we can dash out the full gist ☺ P.S: I don't have any friend named Jude; identity withheld. That was the deal. Thanks Juddy 😂😂 Here we go... Jude: You should appreciate the fact that I entered the kitchen at least… EyilZ ☺☺: Pele o (sorry), don...

The Man...The Boy

Compliments of the season people 💃💃💃💃 So, we're here again, 2019.And I changed the blog title. I hope this' better 😊 Ok, this writeup might be controversial a bit. I'll try so you don't miss my point ☺ So, to business... There are lots of lectures and all on how a lady, a married woman especially should climb a thousand hills and cross a million rivers just to 'keep her man's head' in marriage so he doesn't end up with a train of concubines while the man is free to stop chasing his woman, after all, "she's now his, with a owner, now in someone's possession", a regular property just like a house or shoe, oh, maybe a car, pff! The man has to put food on her table, so, he's justified to treat her as he wish, and her only responsibility is to be a full house burden! Her only role in life now is to play submission. Hello! Let's not get us wrong. I'm a big fan of submission in marriage, my husband is the only one I'm t...