I've really been a poor blogger, my apologies 😞 I think I should get an employer to post on my behalf, but I'm just a student, Ion have cash to pay. Anyway, I'm considering trading Forex, but I'm not too convinced about it, plus, I'm a novice. I hope to be more frequent here, I really apologize for my inconsistency...
So, to the main gist. Today's post is a conversation with a friend. We were really dragging the 'is the kitchen supposed to be left to the female child only?' I was able to drive home my point, and we ended it on a light note, but trust me, I wanted to yell at him at a point. Thank God I didn't succumb to the urge to send a voice note, I would have resulted to summary, but now, we can dash out the full gist ☺
P.S: I don't have any friend named Jude; identity withheld. That was the deal. Thanks Juddy 😂😂
Here we go...
Jude: You should appreciate the fact that I entered the kitchen at least…
EyilZ ☺☺: Pele o (sorry), don't enter kitchen, stay hungry, your slave is coming soon in the form of a wife na, you'll be her god and she'll do your biddings
Jude: Not a matter of slave. Egba mi o (see me see peace). One of her functions is to cook for us. I don't understand. I can only help her sometimes.
EyilZ ☺☺: 'Function!' E kaare (well done).
Jude: Is it not her function? It's her work! I can only take over when the need arises, or when I feel like
EyilZ ☺☺: I'll let it pass cos you keep mentioning this...
Jude: I really want to know your stand
EyilZ ☺☺: Guy! Call a spade a spade
You can't cook cos you can't cook and whatever justifies you justifies a lady who can't
EyilZ ☺☺: You don't use some words like 'function' like she was fashioned to be in the kitchen to cook for you all the days of her life.
Fine, she knows her responsibility, taking care of her family, and thankfully, that involves feeding you and yours
Jude: Why? A lady brought up by her mother. Why won't she know how to cook?
EyilZ ☺☺: A boy doesn’t have a mother? Why didn't he learn to cook? Cos he grew up with the mentality that he'll drop his burden on some ready made chef?
Jude: He was busy with other things. Girls assist their mother in the kitchen, guys don't do that.
Jude: Mama! I see making sure that she and my children are living comfortable, paying bills and other things as my functions. It's not something to be debating on, kitchen is not meant for the husband. However, he can take that responsibility when he feels like or when the wife is not around.
EyilZ ☺☺: No one is saying it's your ‘function’. Last I checked, the Bible called us helpmeet. Just that the egotistical nature of y'all keep making you refuse help from your partner. Well, it's your burden if you choose to make it one, bear it all alone, just make sure you don't break your back.
And if she decides she's never gonna learn to cook and will keep ordering them, it's her choice.
The only thing is, there's a joy derived when you cook for people you love, of which your family is core. If the man decides he'll take the cooking up, he's not less of a man
EyilZ ☺☺: If God wanted females only to know how to cook, it'd have been ingrained in their DNA and not something to be learnt or taught. It's high time we had a more liberal outlook of things
Jude: Oh! I wonder why God didn't install Bible in your brain since He wants you to understand the word.
EyilZ ☺☺: Exactly! Cos we're rational beings, He leaves us with options. Salvation isn't forced either, despite the fact that His only son died
Jude: And I wonder why Jesus didn't go to meet a man instead of meeting a widow to cook for him
EyilZ ☺☺: Jesus went to a widow to cook for him?
Well, I'm sorry I missed that part of the Bible. But that's not the point.
...I love cooking, then I have all girls, they in turn took my hobby and the cycle continues, girls only love cooking, does it then mean girls only must cook?
Guy! Get this! It's what we've been socialized into, so I'm not gonna be blaming the way your thoughts are fashioned, but if you decide to forever hold on to this, deciding you'll be calling your boys outta the kitchen, away from their mother cos boys don't cook, then I'll blame you...
Jude: It's the function of a responsible father to see to the needs of his family. If things are not the way they should, the father is the one to be blamed. And mind you, I am insinuating that men should refuse helps that come from the wives.
EyilZ ☺☺: Durrr! Let's stop defining 'being a man' with how much pain you can withhold, no one is less human by being victim of pain.
Things like this make men keep staying in their corner till they're eaten all up. Enough of killing y'all all in the name of being a man. Like, that's the more reason males die earlier. No one is killing y'all. Stop increasing the rate of widows and fatherless in the community.
Jude: Why don't you just accept it the way it is? That is how it is in every part of the world. And try and understand my point. I am not saying that husbands should not lend their wives helping hand, but it's not a must. Maybe I should make it clear to you that I am striving to know how to cook good food because of future wiffey
EyilZ ☺☺: Of course, no one is taken by compulsion to help the other, but you are in marriage, you are one, you must make the marriage work, so, you *MUST* help!
EyilZ ☺☺: I wouldn't accept the wrong thing cos everyone is into it. Baby, cos majority of the people are in sin doesn't legalize sin for followers of Christ you know?
'Cos something is perverted doesn't mean it's right. Like I said, I'm not blaming you.
The same way we should be willing to accept help from you is the same way you should accept from us as your partner, takes two to tango. I for one wouldn't always be a receiver, we can both help ourselves...
So, way to go in learning to be a good hubby.
Jude: But it's not to be regarded as a wrong view tho. It's not totally wrong.
EyilZ ☺☺: Well, sure. It's what we all grew up into. But there's about to be a revolution!
Jude: Only if they can all see it the way you are seeing it. But the truth in Nigeria won't change when it gets to America. What makes father a good father is the good care he gives his family.
EyilZ ☺☺: It starts with you and me
You change, pass it to your family, you in turn change a generation of thoughts
Then pass it to some of your friends with the wrong view too, then we all together change the world...
Jude: Okay mummy. I have heard you, I have changed redrawn my plans. I would make a cooking roaster when I marry.
EyilZ ☺☺: LOL! Na you sabi (that’s your business). We enjoy cooking for our husbands and sit to see the twinkle and glow in his eyes while he eat tho, so, durrr, we don't need your roaster😂
Jude: But you enjoy tasting his food too, especially on special days e.g Birthdays
EyilZ ☺☺: Yeah yeah
More like, we enjoy the part we run up to throw up, tell him he's a darling but a bad cook, LOL.
Jude: And that is what I won’t allow to happen. She just gonna finish that finger licking food and crave for more. You think I am getting injured everyday in vain?
EyilZ ☺☺: LOL.‘Cos you will not learn from mum. See the reason we all should? I can't imagine my husband with cooking scars all over, or my son. Like, their wives will come and thank me for raising such fine men☺
Jude: Who will she thank now?
My mum or the husband himself?
EyilZ ☺☺: You now, you developed yourself. But me? I gaz do show off, I like shakara!
So, to the main gist. Today's post is a conversation with a friend. We were really dragging the 'is the kitchen supposed to be left to the female child only?' I was able to drive home my point, and we ended it on a light note, but trust me, I wanted to yell at him at a point. Thank God I didn't succumb to the urge to send a voice note, I would have resulted to summary, but now, we can dash out the full gist ☺
P.S: I don't have any friend named Jude; identity withheld. That was the deal. Thanks Juddy 😂😂
Here we go...
Jude: You should appreciate the fact that I entered the kitchen at least…
EyilZ ☺☺: Pele o (sorry), don't enter kitchen, stay hungry, your slave is coming soon in the form of a wife na, you'll be her god and she'll do your biddings
Jude: Not a matter of slave. Egba mi o (see me see peace). One of her functions is to cook for us. I don't understand. I can only help her sometimes.
EyilZ ☺☺: 'Function!' E kaare (well done).
Jude: Is it not her function? It's her work! I can only take over when the need arises, or when I feel like
EyilZ ☺☺: I'll let it pass cos you keep mentioning this...
Jude: I really want to know your stand
EyilZ ☺☺: Guy! Call a spade a spade
You can't cook cos you can't cook and whatever justifies you justifies a lady who can't
EyilZ ☺☺: You don't use some words like 'function' like she was fashioned to be in the kitchen to cook for you all the days of her life.
Fine, she knows her responsibility, taking care of her family, and thankfully, that involves feeding you and yours
Jude: Why? A lady brought up by her mother. Why won't she know how to cook?
EyilZ ☺☺: A boy doesn’t have a mother? Why didn't he learn to cook? Cos he grew up with the mentality that he'll drop his burden on some ready made chef?
Jude: He was busy with other things. Girls assist their mother in the kitchen, guys don't do that.
Jude: Mama! I see making sure that she and my children are living comfortable, paying bills and other things as my functions. It's not something to be debating on, kitchen is not meant for the husband. However, he can take that responsibility when he feels like or when the wife is not around.
EyilZ ☺☺: No one is saying it's your ‘function’. Last I checked, the Bible called us helpmeet. Just that the egotistical nature of y'all keep making you refuse help from your partner. Well, it's your burden if you choose to make it one, bear it all alone, just make sure you don't break your back.
And if she decides she's never gonna learn to cook and will keep ordering them, it's her choice.
The only thing is, there's a joy derived when you cook for people you love, of which your family is core. If the man decides he'll take the cooking up, he's not less of a man
EyilZ ☺☺: If God wanted females only to know how to cook, it'd have been ingrained in their DNA and not something to be learnt or taught. It's high time we had a more liberal outlook of things
Jude: Oh! I wonder why God didn't install Bible in your brain since He wants you to understand the word.
EyilZ ☺☺: Exactly! Cos we're rational beings, He leaves us with options. Salvation isn't forced either, despite the fact that His only son died
Jude: And I wonder why Jesus didn't go to meet a man instead of meeting a widow to cook for him
EyilZ ☺☺: Jesus went to a widow to cook for him?
Well, I'm sorry I missed that part of the Bible. But that's not the point.
...I love cooking, then I have all girls, they in turn took my hobby and the cycle continues, girls only love cooking, does it then mean girls only must cook?
Guy! Get this! It's what we've been socialized into, so I'm not gonna be blaming the way your thoughts are fashioned, but if you decide to forever hold on to this, deciding you'll be calling your boys outta the kitchen, away from their mother cos boys don't cook, then I'll blame you...
Jude: It's the function of a responsible father to see to the needs of his family. If things are not the way they should, the father is the one to be blamed. And mind you, I am insinuating that men should refuse helps that come from the wives.
EyilZ ☺☺: Durrr! Let's stop defining 'being a man' with how much pain you can withhold, no one is less human by being victim of pain.
Things like this make men keep staying in their corner till they're eaten all up. Enough of killing y'all all in the name of being a man. Like, that's the more reason males die earlier. No one is killing y'all. Stop increasing the rate of widows and fatherless in the community.
Jude: Why don't you just accept it the way it is? That is how it is in every part of the world. And try and understand my point. I am not saying that husbands should not lend their wives helping hand, but it's not a must. Maybe I should make it clear to you that I am striving to know how to cook good food because of future wiffey
EyilZ ☺☺: Of course, no one is taken by compulsion to help the other, but you are in marriage, you are one, you must make the marriage work, so, you *MUST* help!
EyilZ ☺☺: I wouldn't accept the wrong thing cos everyone is into it. Baby, cos majority of the people are in sin doesn't legalize sin for followers of Christ you know?
'Cos something is perverted doesn't mean it's right. Like I said, I'm not blaming you.
The same way we should be willing to accept help from you is the same way you should accept from us as your partner, takes two to tango. I for one wouldn't always be a receiver, we can both help ourselves...
So, way to go in learning to be a good hubby.
Jude: But it's not to be regarded as a wrong view tho. It's not totally wrong.
EyilZ ☺☺: Well, sure. It's what we all grew up into. But there's about to be a revolution!
Jude: Only if they can all see it the way you are seeing it. But the truth in Nigeria won't change when it gets to America. What makes father a good father is the good care he gives his family.
EyilZ ☺☺: It starts with you and me
You change, pass it to your family, you in turn change a generation of thoughts
Then pass it to some of your friends with the wrong view too, then we all together change the world...
Jude: Okay mummy. I have heard you, I have changed redrawn my plans. I would make a cooking roaster when I marry.
EyilZ ☺☺: LOL! Na you sabi (that’s your business). We enjoy cooking for our husbands and sit to see the twinkle and glow in his eyes while he eat tho, so, durrr, we don't need your roaster😂
Jude: But you enjoy tasting his food too, especially on special days e.g Birthdays
EyilZ ☺☺: Yeah yeah
More like, we enjoy the part we run up to throw up, tell him he's a darling but a bad cook, LOL.
Jude: And that is what I won’t allow to happen. She just gonna finish that finger licking food and crave for more. You think I am getting injured everyday in vain?
EyilZ ☺☺: LOL.‘Cos you will not learn from mum. See the reason we all should? I can't imagine my husband with cooking scars all over, or my son. Like, their wives will come and thank me for raising such fine men☺
Jude: Who will she thank now?
My mum or the husband himself?
EyilZ ☺☺: You now, you developed yourself. But me? I gaz do show off, I like shakara!
Eh����woman power, we ain't slaves, bless u ma'am
ReplyDelete😊😊 Bless you too. Thank you 💖💖
DeleteYes! You are a poor blogger... But you're a good writer, you can do better and we're all hoping to see your very best *winks*
ReplyDeleteWhat about a 'common girl, you're one of the best bloggers I've ever met' 😏 Thanks anyway 😘😘
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